I feel like not many people understand anxiety. The havoc it can wreck on someones life. How it leave someone feeling trapped. With no way out. No way to grow or succeed.
People also believe that when people with anxiety have panic attacks it’s obvious and shows physical signs. But not all people with anxiety do that. Some just go into themselves even more and panic internally. Panic attacks are not always obvious to the naked eye. So when someone opens up to you about something making them anxious please don’t underestimate this or not believe them just because they’re not showing stereotypical outward signs.
People can also get anxious about a variety of different things. So don’t judge if what makes them anxious seems mundane or even irrational to you. A lot of us with anxiety know we’re being irrational, but that part within us that is anxious is stronger than that.
My anxiety effects me so that I struggle to call people or even answer the phone. This has got a lot better over the years but still really effects me. Especially if it is to do with solving a problem. Problems involving phone confrontation keep on cropping up in my life as well. I recently allowed myself to lose over £1000 that I should have been paid because I was too anxious to phone or even email and deal with the stress of sorting it out. My doctors lost my new phone number and I was too anxious to phone and sort it out.
Both of these situations have huge consequences for me, my financial security and my mental and physical health.
My anxiety also effects me in other ways. Like not being able to stay in contact with friends, because I’m scared I annoy them. Not even being able to apply for jobs/scholarships because they need a reference.
Wimping out of going to interviews at the last minute. Not sending formative assessments to be marked. Having to get to places ridiculously early incase your late. The list of ways my anxiety has effected me could go on.
Anxiety is real and it is debilitating, this is something that everyone needs to understand. It is something to be taken seriously and not just brushed aside. If you have a loved one with anxiety you need to help support them through it. Help them manage and overcome it so they can live a more fulfilling life.
We need support,and sometimes we need others to do things for us because we’re unable ourselves.